Deadlines are looming, three more tasks need to be added to your to-do list-and you haven’t even crossed anything off yet. Your inbox is out of control and you are staring down another afternoon of back to back meetings.
Everything feels out of control.
You feel frustrated with the fools you work with who just don’t listen, which means another inefficient, wasted meeting.
Your boss expects too much of you.
Work takes you for granted, you feel used and unappreciated.
There aren’t enough hours in the day to get everything done and there’s nothing you can do about it.
Or is there?
Thoughts like this are thoughts that come from a classic victim mindset. It’s ALL happening to you and there is nothing you can do about it. When you think like this, and play the victim, you feel powerless and out of control because there is nothing you can do to change what is happening to you.
But there is something you can do, there is another way. And that way is to adopt a victor mindset.
The mindset that no matter what happens around you, you are in control of how you think, how you respond, how you allocate your time, how you behave. You get to choose how you respond to what is happening around you, rather than reacting and falling victim to it.
So, where do you start in order to stop being the classic victim?
Start by becoming aware of your personal, internal conversations: the thoughts you have inside your head every day.
Notice if you spend time focusing on blame, problems, complaining, it’s not fair, I can’t do anything about it, why me OR if your thoughts are focused more on outcomes, solutions, growth, learning, responsibility.
If your thoughts fall into the former category, you are suffering from a victim mindset. Notice these thoughts as they come up and ask what to think instead so you stop being victim to what’s going on around you.